“That is a sign from God, turning 26 on the 26, double portions, double blessings.”-Mommy

You only turn 26 on the 26 once in a lifetime. And only God could have planned that coincidence to happen in my life. I don’t feel 26 and nor do I look it. But I thought I would share some things that I have learned thus far while being on this earth for 26 years. Things that have shaped me into the woman that I am today. And things that have pushed me into the being that I have become. It’s necessary to give yall this wisdom because God won’t let me rest until I do.

So here are some things I have learned thus far on this journey.

When Prayers Go Up, Blessings Come Down: This I learned years ago when I first started blogging. I learned that no matter what I prayed for at some point those blessings would soon manifest in my life. I learned that I have to be patient and trust God that they will.

Going Back to Basics Ain’t So Bad: I never knew what simplicity was or that it could be something transcended into all areas of my life. I learned that the more simplistic and basic things are in my life the more fulfilling my life will become.

College, the good, the bad, and the very ugly: Would I repeat college over again? Maybe? I do not know? But I learned so much about myself during those volatile years of my life. There was so much that I did and experience that I just say, it is what it is, and it was what it was.

Some Friendships Will Not Last: I am neither sad nor upset that some friendships have ended. I learned that everything is all about trust and connections. The friendships that I had were toxic for me and I learned that nothing like that should pollute your sanity, space, and overall being.

Tell em’ Boy Bye: I have told a lot of boys who were not men bye. I have told a lot of men who acted like boys bye. I have learned that I have no patience for guys who are not upfront about their intentions.  Excuse the vulgarness ( Ma if you read this I’m sorry) but I’m a big girl just tell me you tryna fuck. Just tell me you want to be with me for my career. Just tell me the truth cause Lord knows I can handle it and I will tell you bye.

My Shyness Saved Me: I was such a shy person coming up due to low self-esteem and abuse. I would be so scared to speak up for myself but then later would burst when push to the limit.  Sometimes I hated my shy nature, but in retrospect I thank it. I thank it because it saved me from a lot. It taught me to be observant and analytical about my life and surroundings. I learned that it comes in handy when I need it.

The World is the World: I am not of the world, but I just live in it. The world is still beautiful and we must strive to see it. I learned to only check in on it when need be but to not let toxify my mental state. Pray for the world but do not let it wreck havoc on your world.

Don’t Be in a Rush: Simple. I learned to slow down and enjoy the process of this beautiful life.

Work Just as Hard. Play Just as Hard: If all you do is work then you will not be able to enjoy the fruits of that labor. I learned that I am not waiting till when I’m older to enjoy life. I am gonna do it right now in this moment.

We are Nomads: We are not meant to live in one location for long periods of time. Yes, have roots planted, but go and see things. I am learning to put my best effort forward to experience new places, things, and people.

Your Spiritual Growth is Important: I am a Christian, but my denomination is Baptist. Yes, I grew up in the church and my mother became a minister. Did I have a relationship with God when I was younger? No. Did I practice things that were taught to me? No. I went to church because I had to not because I wanted to be there. But I have learned to thank my mom for making me go. As I have grown older I decided to seek God on my own. I wanted to be whole and restored. I wanted life and light. Not death and darkness. You may not believe in God, but you must believe that your spiritual clarity must be a key factor in your life. I learned that the hard way.

Balance is Key: I have learned to maintain a sense of balance in my life. Balancing is my way of keeping peace and clarity in all areas of my life. You can have balance in your life. You just have to be willing to make the effort.

I’m Not Done Partying Yet: Yeah I said it. I’m not done partying yet. You can judge me all you want because I really don’t care. I learned early on from my early days of partying that I just like to celebrate and have a good time. People have this negative outlook on partying because they associate it with drugs and alcohol. Yes, I have been on both sides of the spectrum. Partying for me is to celebrate all the good in my life because I remember when there was a time that I did not want to celebrate my life.

Substances Only Work For a Split Second: It’s no secret that drugs and alcohol were my vices at one point. It’s no secret that I consumed a lot of alcohol more than what I should. But I learned during that moment in my life that you can only be numb for a second. At some point, you will have to deal with your depression, anger, sadness, and hang-ups.

Love Your Parents: If you can, then great. If you can’t, then it’s okay. Just try to make an effort to have a relationship with your parents. Try to fix the issues if they are fixable. I learned the hard way that if you wait and be stubborn then you may never get the chance.

Being Myself: I’m an introverted shy cuss like a sailor at times overly passionate hard as nails tomboy with a golden smile. I see things as black and white with no in-betweens. I’m quite sarcastic yet cynical and blunt. Sometimes a little savage but only when need be. But at the end of the day I’m just me. And I have learned at this stage in my life those who matter don’t mind and those who don’t matter do mind. If you can’t handle my being you are more than welcome to exit the stage to your left.

And the last thing is this…….

Learning to live and be happy:

My life once upon a time ago was full of pain, chaos, hurt, and major turbulence. And now I can honestly say that I am happy where I am at in life.

My desire to live and be happy is being fulfilled. And with every age I am seeing new things, places, and people. Learning to let go and let God.

And that is what I have learned for 26 years on this earth.