“Sometimes you have to treat yo’ self .”-Boutzie


As I sit here and sip my tea trying to formulate my words; the title is pretty much self-explanatory. Every day I am judged by my peers based on the “material” things that I have. I have been asked by females “Girl what did you do to get this car?”. As if they assumed I have done something sexual or degrading to obtain a means of transportation.  Not knowing that my life has not always been a “treat yo’ self” extravaganza.

People’s perception of each other is somewhat altered by what they perceived on the outside. We are so quick to judge a person based on what they have. We never stopped to think what did it all take for that person to get here?  Never knowing their story or their struggle. We just assumed they were always like this.  I will be the first to say I was never like this.

Growing up I would say that I had the world. Then in one quick second it was all gone. I know what it is like to have money and be able to quote on quote flourish. Then I know what it is like to wake up and it all be gone. To struggle and be below the poverty line.  To always wonder if  life will always be like this?  A daily battle of inchin’ and pinchin’ your way through life.  Given that, I grew up poor I learned some valuable lessons. I learned that I was not being frugal but a good steward with my money. Balancing my pockets to make sure I had what I needed.

When you grow up poor you developed this mindset. A mindset where you never ever want to be broke. You don’t want to live paycheck to paycheck or see your bank account on empty. You want to live and be able to live with the necessary consistent funds. You don’t want to live your life stressed out deciding between gas or food. So what do you do? You treat yourself.

You have to treat yourself sometimes. Always balancing and managing your money can be stressful. If all of your daily living expenses are paid, why not splurge? Why not treat oneself to a new pair of shoes? Why not buy that chocolate chip cookie from your favorite baker? Why not? WHY NOT LIVE!!!

We have to learn to stop pinchin’ and start living. We all deserved a break and a time to relax. I have worked since I was fourteen because I did not want to be poor anymore. By me working, I have established so many things in my life.  And being able to live is one of them.

Never allow the worlds titles make you feel as if you cannot live.  Never allow your poverty to be your misery. See the light at the end of the tunnel. Know that one day it will all get better.

So in the meantime treat yo’ self and live.